When Celebrations Are Painful, Not Joyful


Celebrating Events Without Our Loved Ones

Holidays and other life celebrations can bring on new waves of grief, even when you feel that your healing has been going well for some time. Now is a good time to prepare yourself. Here are some tips for those enduring grief and for those who want to help.

Face it, don’t fear it or fake it:

  • If you try to push the pain out of the way, by ignoring it, by over-drinking, or otherwise masking it, you will make things worse. Instead, try talking to a close friend or other family member. Voicing your pain gets it out of your head.
  • Create traditions that help you remember your loved one in happy times. Craft projects, digital projects, that utilize photos, videos, and other items are a meaningful and productive way to grieve. This is an especially good idea when assisting children grieve in a healthy way.
  • Get professional help when needed.

Do You Know Someone Who Might Be Affected by Holiday Grief?

Check in on neighbors, friends, or family who may be at risk for Holiday grief, especially if this is the first year an event will be celebrated without their loved one. Wedding Anniversaries are other occasions that can be difficult to bear – also the anniversary of the death. It is easy to forget these dates, but be assured, your friend, family member or neighbor will wake up knowing what day it is. Why not put these important dates in your calendar now?

I Don’t Know What To Say or Give

You do not need to “know what to say.” Just making your presence available will help the grieving one know that he or she is not alone…

Gifts That Keep Giving

Never before in history have we seen such a diversity of remembrance items that you can either make or purchase that say “I still love you and you are not forgotten.”

For example, some choose “living gifts” like trees and seeds that grow and have meaning for years to come. When you send someone a New Growth Tree Gift Box, the experience begins when they receive the specially-designed package, and open it to reveal your personal message and a beautiful living tree.

Please visit the Grief and Healing section of our website for more information.


Here is a recent article by LiveStrong on the subject for more information: http://www.livestrong.com/article/200001-holidays-after-the-death-of-a-loved-one/

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